When I had my baby, I was a devoted student of the late Magda Gerber, author of Your Self-Confident Baby: How to Encourage Your Child’s Natural Abilities from the Very Start. Gerber advocated for minimal interference with infants. She held that babies need caregivers to feed and clean them, and critically, to keep them safe, but beyond that, the best kind of parenting involved leaving infants alone to explore their world. It proved incredibly difficult for me to follow this advice, and even harder to advocate for it with the child’s other caregivers. (Perhaps the hardest part to enact was ‘forbidding’ the grandparents to give hugs and kisses outside of bathtime and diaper changing time.) But as a matter of philosophy, Gerber’s method is a rock solid foundation for childrearing (during and beyond the infant years). Provide a safe and structured environment for those you are charged with nurturing and then get out of the way and let them grow.